tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post1774652452663892474..comments2024-03-24T23:13:15.572-07:00Comments on Mind Deep: The End of GriefMarguerite Manteau-Raohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17956537059369707663noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-27092352603385179572013-04-14T22:59:05.913-07:002013-04-14T22:59:05.913-07:00jwyerman, I heard a hospice social worker once des...jwyerman, I heard a hospice social worker once describe life as a continuous goodbye . . . We are grieving all the time. This is my understanding of impermanence and dukkha. Only some times are harder than others, depending on the depth of our attachment. Parents and children are the toughest.Marguerite Manteau-Raohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17956537059369707663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-14345554936373450542013-04-14T22:56:35.251-07:002013-04-14T22:56:35.251-07:00Was Once, you are wrong about the children part. I...Was Once, you are wrong about the children part. I have done my fair share of grieving as they separated from me, and let me know in no uncertain terms. Marguerite Manteau-Raohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17956537059369707663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-63813382355085794132013-04-14T22:53:41.009-07:002013-04-14T22:53:41.009-07:00Beautiful quote from Thomas Chandler (?). Thank yo...Beautiful quote from Thomas Chandler (?). Thank you.Marguerite Manteau-Raohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17956537059369707663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-74653390880344230202013-04-14T22:52:39.863-07:002013-04-14T22:52:39.863-07:00Jeanne, yes, I too came to the realization of the ...Jeanne, yes, I too came to the realization of the unique nature of my mother's love for me. I cannot think of anyone else who loves(d) me as unconditionally as she did. And it took me years to fully appreciate her love and receive it. That is the part that brings up most grief. Now, being a mother myself, I get to feel what it is like to be on the other end . . . Marguerite Manteau-Raohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17956537059369707663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-86119824338438184872013-04-13T11:58:47.937-07:002013-04-13T11:58:47.937-07:00Thank you. This is very insightful and helpful to ...Thank you. This is very insightful and helpful to me in trying to understand my resistance to letting go of relationship that changed. What is great about the forth remembrance is its universality to any situation of perceived loss or resistance to change. It is hard for me not take such things personally (Why is this happening to me; What did I do wrong; What can I learn, etc.?) instead of objectively (Why can I not accept what is, without analysis?). Nice blog.jwyermannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-63725023347700939972013-04-06T09:11:07.169-07:002013-04-06T09:11:07.169-07:00Did you grieve when your daughter stopped being a ...Did you grieve when your daughter stopped being a baby, when she said "no" to you? Propably not, because in some ways you were prepared for this, so why is it we can't prepare ourselves for the loss of our parents?Was Oncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15787588883235992471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-67126625219561029692013-04-02T18:30:25.241-07:002013-04-02T18:30:25.241-07:00You really go into detail, thank you for sharing. ...You really go into detail, thank you for sharing. I write about mindfulness as well, although, I am quite envious of your writing abilities.<br /><br /><br />https://www.empowernetwork.com/sethgilluly/Seth Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18156317167594516082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-86409499520081893652013-04-02T04:12:30.154-07:002013-04-02T04:12:30.154-07:00To love a person is to learn the song that is in t...To love a person is to learn the song that is in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten. <br />-- Thomas Chandler (?)<br />So true, when we look at aged persons such as our parents – they have done so much with love and kindness, and thoughtfulness when they had good memory, energy and capability. This is also true in the context of persons who are angry and upset, and have forgotten the song that is in their heart.<br />Cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6166459572149699816.post-32521401529127900822013-04-01T00:54:50.981-07:002013-04-01T00:54:50.981-07:00A lot of things arise with a loss like this. Certa...A lot of things arise with a loss like this. Certainly for me there is attachment to that loved one, desire for their company. My mother was almost inique in my life in her appreciation of my successes.<br /><br />When someone dies unexpectedly i am always dealing with the raw perception of fragility - it could be me, it could be Tom or my daughter or grandson. I'm on that tilting board. I know it's supposed to be the ground of awakening but ai prefer solid ground.<br />With a bow.Jeanne Desyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07800258273705288582noreply@blogger.com